Femme Fatalist
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shavostars:

mrsmiawallaces:

This Vine gives me life

I’m reblogging this again, because this gives me life and a will to live even in the darkest hours.

carolinadipper:

femme-fatalist:

oh-snap-pro-choice:

carolinadipper:

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carolinadipper:

Why do people assume we NEED government assistance to live or survive? Why is it such a shock when I say I don’t need emergency care for a broken limb or digit? Or a bullet wound/major gashes? You patch yourself up, move on and do your damn job. Are…

No it doesn’t, just pointing out flaws in your already completely backwards and holey logic. You value foetuses above all other beings, it’s sickening. I hope any children you have never break any bones.
Guess what
You’re not a medical professionals
You don’t even know basic development and you’re claiming you can just brush off being shot? What if it hits a main artery? What if the bone you so miraculously set at home sets crooked?
This is ridiculous. Getting medical care isn’t government assistance, what the actual fuck.

-Ash

Ok so you value a straight finger more than anything? And if it hits a main artery then you stop the fucking bleeding!!!! Idiot!!

What the actual fuck

Where did I say that

So you would rather set bones wrong and hinder the rest of your life because you’re too much of an ignorant independent asshat then actually go to a hospital?


Yeah next time someone’s femoral artery gets cut ill totally take some cloth and duct tape to it, instead of being a responsible adult and going to professionals. Because logic.
-Ash

I can’t honestly believe this jackass is real.  They must be a troll.

No way someone could be this dense.

So because I don’t give in I’m dense? Because I have integrity then I’m dense?

No.  It’s because you extrapolate nonsense from the responses to your posts.  And your responses don’t address anything.  And are filled with exclamation points and insults.

Your connection between “government care” and emergency medical care is fallacious, and frankly, dangerous, considering the state of health care in the US.

Case in point: Ash never said setting a bone was more important than “anything.” What the fuck is “anything?”  And if someone slices a major artery you will bleed out very fucking quickly unless you seek some professional help.  Pressing a towel against your bleeding thigh won’t do shit except delay your inevitable death.  Or at least the loss of a limb.

Based on the responses to your bullshit on my dash, your alleged “integrity” is adhering to outmoded and backward ideas about how people “should” act according to some arbitrary, probably religiously fueled, notions.  All of which you evidently haven’t examined to any extent.

Get your head out of your ass and then maybe you’ll get some perspective.

oh-snap-pro-choice:

carolinadipper:

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carolinadipper:

Why do people assume we NEED government assistance to live or survive? Why is it such a shock when I say I don’t need emergency care for a broken limb or digit? Or a bullet wound/major gashes? You patch yourself up, move on and do your damn job. Are…

No it doesn’t, just pointing out flaws in your already completely backwards and holey logic. You value foetuses above all other beings, it’s sickening. I hope any children you have never break any bones.
Guess what
You’re not a medical professionals
You don’t even know basic development and you’re claiming you can just brush off being shot? What if it hits a main artery? What if the bone you so miraculously set at home sets crooked?
This is ridiculous. Getting medical care isn’t government assistance, what the actual fuck.

-Ash

Ok so you value a straight finger more than anything? And if it hits a main artery then you stop the fucking bleeding!!!! Idiot!!

What the actual fuck

Where did I say that

So you would rather set bones wrong and hinder the rest of your life because you’re too much of an ignorant independent asshat then actually go to a hospital?


Yeah next time someone’s femoral artery gets cut ill totally take some cloth and duct tape to it, instead of being a responsible adult and going to professionals. Because logic.
-Ash

I can’t honestly believe this jackass is real.  They must be a troll.

No way someone could be this dense.

I understand the impetus behind the counting of children and female casualties. The killing of innocents in Gaza by Israel’s war machine is a crime. But Palestinian men are victims of Israeli state terrorism too. Let’s not repeat the logic of the war on terror, where only children and women can be victims but men (including boys over 15, sometimes 13) are always suspects and thus somehow they share in the blame of their own death. This is the gendering of the War on Terror: our men and boys are inherently dangerous and are merely the potential for violence encased in human flesh.



Furthermore, every woman who lives and loves and loses and struggles within Israel’s military occupation and siege is a revolutionary. You do not have to pick up a gun in Gaza to be a revolutionary or an “enemy” of Israel. You just have to be alive and to insist on living. After all, isn’t that point of settler colonialism?

Maya Mikdashi   (via empirescollapse)
Ladies know how to play kickball you fucking losers

Had a kickball game this Saturday, and several things pissed me off:

—-Dude on other team being first base coach said I was “better than he expected.” I asked what he meant and he just shrugged and pointedly avoided eye contact. 

—-One of the referees told me, as i walked over to second base before the inning, that second base players usually stand in the center of the baseline between first and second.  I waited a beat before saying, slowly, “Yes. I know.”  My sunglasses obscured the daggers in my eyes.

—-Older guy on another team, watching the game, asked if I knew that it was against the rules to lead off first base when running in an earlier inning.  He sidled up to me all familiar and shit.  I looked him square in the eye and said, “Lets use our brains. I’ve been playing kickball for three years. We’re losing.  What are the chances I’m breaking the rules on purpose?”  I count it as evidence of supreme self control I didn’t use one swear word.

—-This same jackass jokes with the guy on base that he should pick me up and carry me to second when he makes his run (What.The.Fuck??). And I said i’d like to see him try it without losing his balls. He then said I seemed “feisty” and I replied, “That’s one way to put it. ‘Rage-fueled Glamazon from hell’ is probably more accurate.”  (my team is called the Glamazons)

I love PKL.  I love playing on my team even though we never win (the fun is really in getting dressed up according to our theme, drinking beer and heckling players).  But when douchebags think I don’t know what I’m doing, (or think I’m dressing up for their benefit), it really ruins the experience. 

Gods help the fuckers who push my buttons again.

thoughtsofablackgirl:

Girls&WomenToKnow: Leanna Archer

Meet Lenna Archer, who started her Leanna Inc. a haircare line at This Long 9 years old. Leanna all nautral organic hair products has generated over $ $100,000 in revenue. Leana develops and mixes each of her products (the original hair dressing was based on a family formula), and tracks orders and customer correspondence. Her parents and two brothers assist in bookkeeping, packaging, and product testing. The company sells its shampoos, conditioners, shea butter, and other products both in stores and online. 

Leanna is a philanthropist as well in 2008 she founded the Leanna Archer Education Foundation, an organization devoted to providing better opportunities for children in Haiti. Leanna’s goal is to built schools in Haiti, while providing a Safe learning environment for over 150 students.

Leanna as been featured in Forbes Magazine, Success Magazine, INC Magazine (30 under 30) and Ebony Magazine. Online web portal, AOL Black Voices, was also impressed with Leanna and positioned the Teen CEO as #5 on their list of “ Top 9 Young Lions” who are making Black History. Leanna has also been interviewed by several major media outlets, including NBC, MSNBC,ABC,FOX Business and BET.

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

mirkwood:

misskittystryker:

naamahdarling:

behelitohs:

lindseywalnut:

utterlyfubar:

rcmclachlan:

doodlyood:

spinachandrice:

theonewholovesbooks:

thatfilthyanimal:

fawnthefeminist:

Young women are having difficulty accessing tubal ligation, despite it being a relatively safe (death rate is 1-2 per 100,000) and elective surgery.

There is a waiting period of 30 days for women seeking tubal ligation, yet no waiting period for men seeking vasectomies. 
(Source)


Young women are often discriminated against when seeking sterilization. Many doctors ask offensive questions (“What if you met a billionaire who wanted to have kids with you?”), state categorically that their patients are too young to consider the surgery, and generally act as though, as one woman who tried unsuccessfully to be sterilized at the age of 21 in the U.K. put it, ”just because I was a woman, I’d reach a point where an urge to breed would overcome all rational thought.” (Perhaps unsurprisingly, that woman’s 25-year-old husband faced no such presumptions when he asked his doctor for a vasectomy. The procedure was quickly approved.)
(Source)


Say that at 18 I slap down enough money so I could have my whole body covered head-to-toe in tattoos, piercings all over myself, a mountain of cigarettes, plastic surgery, and plan to have like 20 babies… but if I try at all to safely make it impossible for me to breed for the sake of my health suddenly its like WOAH THERE SLOW DOWN MISSY YOU’RE NOT READY FOR THIS KIND OF COMMITMENT YET

I have stage III Endometriosis, which means I have to get my uterus removed because I literally have terrible cramps ALL THE TIME and not just when I’m on my period. Now, I’ve always said I don’t want any children for personal reasons and I don’t need my uterus, really. I am not worried about that surgery and I don’t feel any kind of nostalgia over an organ I won’t ever use. 
The thing is, my doctor is a ‘man’. This ‘man’ told me I had to get pregnant right now before it’s too late. I told him I didn’t want to get pregnant and explained the multiple reasons but what, do you ask, did my doctor have to say about this? 'Well, better have a kid now because just imagine how depressing it must be being a thirty-something woman without children and a husband?'
I was diagnosed a year ago. I should have gone through surgery six months ago and I still can’t find a doctor that will perform the surgery without trying to force me to have children first. Basically, if you’re a woman you don’t have a say in what can and cannot be done to your body without a shitload of people getting in the way AND I’M FUCKING SICK OF IT.

Women are getting non-consensually sterilized in prison but no doctors in my area while tie my tubes at 24 because I might regret it? Fuck you, doctors. I have more purpose in life than dropping babies. Some of those women in prison are probably great moms and I have no interest in parenting. Let us have a say!

A dear friend of mine wanted to have her tubes tied.  She was about to give birth to twins and the doctors wouldn’t consent because she wasn’t 21 yet.  She had already had children and they still refused to let her have the procedure.

My friend got a vasectomy a week after asking his doctor for one, no problem. He was 25.
Me? I’ve asked 4 different doctors for some kind of permanent sterilisation—tubal ligation or Essure or whatever—and I get a pat on the head and a “You’d regret it if you did.”
Oh, DIDN’T REALIZE YOU HAD A DIRECT LINE TO MY BRAIN.

On the flip side, as a vagina-having person who had her tubes tied at the age of 26 (after having 4 children, however):
MY HUSBAND HAD TO SIGN A CONSENT FORM IN ORDER FOR ME TO HAVE THE PROCEDURE DONE.
How many times have we heard stories about husbands having vasectomies behind their wives backs and never telling them, letting those wives wallow in guilt and misery, thinking it’s their fault that they can’t get pregnant?
And yet I had had to get my husband’s permission to have my tubes tied.
(Obviously this was a decision we’d talked about extensively beforehand, so it’s not like he was about to say no, but we both couldn’t believe the fucking audacity of the hospital, asking HIS permission for ME to do something with MY body.  In fact, he said as much to the nurse that brought in the forms.)

This is fucked up. Your body is no one’s business but your own. Even if there’s no law against young sterilization, women still suffer just from societal expectations, which influence doctors who are unable to be objective. People think they’re being caring but are actually just afraid of anything that goes outside of their preconceived notions of what people should do with their lives. 

I got mine at 23 (no prior children).  Via the Health Department in the state I was living in at the time.  It was on a sliding scale, and because I was poor- it was free.I ended up having to wait a year and have a psychological evaluation.  Considering my tubal was free and they were actually giving one to me, I considered this a small price to pay at the time.In the state I live in now, I never would have been able to get one that easily.  I was EXTREMELY lucky.  I consider it a minor miracle, frankly.

Still, the psych eval is hella fucking offensive.  And it does make me wonder whether sterilization would have been denied to someone like me, who is certified disabled with a mental illness.  Because I might be too crazy to make such a permanent decision (but not too crazy to decide to HAVE a kid who would likely inherit the same disorders I have*).
* I have no problem with people who have mental illnesses and DO want to have kids.  I’m just not doing it, and I’m not pretending that the desire not to pass on the hellishness of my particular brand of crazy isn’t a part of that.

I found that arguing that I was too crazy to take care of a kid and would pass my crazy down to one was enough to get them to agree. 

White women though. White able bodied women.They’re STILL sterlising incarcerated black women as well as disabled people. And they’ve got a history of forcibly sterlising black and Indigenous American women but they keep white able bodied women forced to have babies.That’s real important to include in this whole scenario. Because it really makes you see exactly what the point is.

It’s all about control over womens bodies
Keeping some women from having kids
And trying to FORCE others to
See also: The way that those of us who are trans have to jump through hoops to get access to the hormones and the surgery we might want rather than simply being given access to it if we request it
It’s all part of a system to try and take control of our bodies away from women

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

mirkwood:

misskittystryker:

naamahdarling:

behelitohs:

lindseywalnut:

utterlyfubar:

rcmclachlan:

doodlyood:

spinachandrice:

theonewholovesbooks:

thatfilthyanimal:

fawnthefeminist:

Young women are having difficulty accessing tubal ligation, despite it being a relatively safe (death rate is 1-2 per 100,000) and elective surgery.

There is a waiting period of 30 days for women seeking tubal ligation, yet no waiting period for men seeking vasectomies. 

(Source)

Young women are often discriminated against when seeking sterilization. Many doctors ask offensive questions (“What if you met a billionaire who wanted to have kids with you?”), state categorically that their patients are too young to consider the surgery, and generally act as though, as one woman who tried unsuccessfully to be sterilized at the age of 21 in the U.K. put it, ”just because I was a woman, I’d reach a point where an urge to breed would overcome all rational thought.” (Perhaps unsurprisingly, that woman’s 25-year-old husband faced no such presumptions when he asked his doctor for a vasectomy. The procedure was quickly approved.)

(Source)

Say that at 18 I slap down enough money so I could have my whole body covered head-to-toe in tattoos, piercings all over myself, a mountain of cigarettes, plastic surgery, and plan to have like 20 babies… but if I try at all to safely make it impossible for me to breed for the sake of my health suddenly its like WOAH THERE SLOW DOWN MISSY YOU’RE NOT READY FOR THIS KIND OF COMMITMENT YET

I have stage III Endometriosis, which means I have to get my uterus removed because I literally have terrible cramps ALL THE TIME and not just when I’m on my period. Now, I’ve always said I don’t want any children for personal reasons and I don’t need my uterus, really. I am not worried about that surgery and I don’t feel any kind of nostalgia over an organ I won’t ever use. 

The thing is, my doctor is a ‘man’. This ‘man’ told me I had to get pregnant right now before it’s too late. I told him I didn’t want to get pregnant and explained the multiple reasons but what, do you ask, did my doctor have to say about this? 'Well, better have a kid now because just imagine how depressing it must be being a thirty-something woman without children and a husband?'

I was diagnosed a year ago. I should have gone through surgery six months ago and I still can’t find a doctor that will perform the surgery without trying to force me to have children first. Basically, if you’re a woman you don’t have a say in what can and cannot be done to your body without a shitload of people getting in the way AND I’M FUCKING SICK OF IT.

Women are getting non-consensually sterilized in prison but no doctors in my area while tie my tubes at 24 because I might regret it? Fuck you, doctors. I have more purpose in life than dropping babies. Some of those women in prison are probably great moms and I have no interest in parenting. Let us have a say!

A dear friend of mine wanted to have her tubes tied.  She was about to give birth to twins and the doctors wouldn’t consent because she wasn’t 21 yet.  She had already had children and they still refused to let her have the procedure.

My friend got a vasectomy a week after asking his doctor for one, no problem. He was 25.

Me? I’ve asked 4 different doctors for some kind of permanent sterilisation—tubal ligation or Essure or whatever—and I get a pat on the head and a “You’d regret it if you did.”

Oh, DIDN’T REALIZE YOU HAD A DIRECT LINE TO MY BRAIN.

On the flip side, as a vagina-having person who had her tubes tied at the age of 26 (after having 4 children, however):

MY HUSBAND HAD TO SIGN A CONSENT FORM IN ORDER FOR ME TO HAVE THE PROCEDURE DONE.

How many times have we heard stories about husbands having vasectomies behind their wives backs and never telling them, letting those wives wallow in guilt and misery, thinking it’s their fault that they can’t get pregnant?

And yet I had had to get my husband’s permission to have my tubes tied.

(Obviously this was a decision we’d talked about extensively beforehand, so it’s not like he was about to say no, but we both couldn’t believe the fucking audacity of the hospital, asking HIS permission for ME to do something with MY body.  In fact, he said as much to the nurse that brought in the forms.)

This is fucked up. Your body is no one’s business but your own. Even if there’s no law against young sterilization, women still suffer just from societal expectations, which influence doctors who are unable to be objective. People think they’re being caring but are actually just afraid of anything that goes outside of their preconceived notions of what people should do with their lives. 

I got mine at 23 (no prior children).  Via the Health Department in the state I was living in at the time.  It was on a sliding scale, and because I was poor- it was free.

I ended up having to wait a year and have a psychological evaluation.  Considering my tubal was free and they were actually giving one to me, I considered this a small price to pay at the time.

In the state I live in now, I never would have been able to get one that easily.  I was EXTREMELY lucky.  I consider it a minor miracle, frankly.

Still, the psych eval is hella fucking offensive.  And it does make me wonder whether sterilization would have been denied to someone like me, who is certified disabled with a mental illness.  Because I might be too crazy to make such a permanent decision (but not too crazy to decide to HAVE a kid who would likely inherit the same disorders I have*).

* I have no problem with people who have mental illnesses and DO want to have kids.  I’m just not doing it, and I’m not pretending that the desire not to pass on the hellishness of my particular brand of crazy isn’t a part of that.

I found that arguing that I was too crazy to take care of a kid and would pass my crazy down to one was enough to get them to agree. 

White women though. White able bodied women.

They’re STILL sterlising incarcerated black women as well as disabled people. And they’ve got a history of forcibly sterlising black and Indigenous American women but they keep white able bodied women forced to have babies.

That’s real important to include in this whole scenario. Because it really makes you see exactly what the point is.

It’s all about control over womens bodies

Keeping some women from having kids

And trying to FORCE others to

See also: The way that those of us who are trans have to jump through hoops to get access to the hormones and the surgery we might want rather than simply being given access to it if we request it

It’s all part of a system to try and take control of our bodies away from women

Assimilationists want nothing less than to construct the homosexual as normal - white, monogamous, wealthy, 2.5 children, SUVs with a white picket fence. This construction, of course, reproduces the stability of heterosexuality, whiteness, patriarchy, the gender binary, and capitalism itself. If we genuinely want to make ruins of this totality, we need to make a break. We don’t need inclusion into marriage, the military, and the state. We need to end them. No more gay politicians, CEOs, and cops. We need to swiftly and immediately articulate a wide gulf between the politics of assimilation and the struggle for liberation. We need to rediscover our riotous inheritance as queer anarchists. We need to destroy constructions of normalcy, and create instead a position based in our alienation from this normalcy, and one capable of dismantling it.

Toward The Queerest Insurrection  (via faggotviolence)

All of these things.

(via sexistentialisms)

Yes yes yes

(via thatgothlibrarian)